Two sides...ONE GOD!

Ok. I'm going to ask you a tough question. Then I'm going to give you my honest opinion. Then I'm going to give us the scriptures that we all know..(and possibly hate!) 

Ready? 

How do you feel about sex before marriage?

I was going to ask all of my married friends to sit down and shut up. But I think that if they can be honest about who they were before the ring then they should have a voice here too. 

I was going to ask all of my saved friends to sit down and shut up. But I realized that a lot of my saved friends live with a man. (Hold that thought, Netta!) So, again if they can be honest then they should have a voice here too. 

So. Now that everybody is free to voice their opinions.... 

My story. 

I've never been married. I've been sexually active since 15. Correction. I was sexually active from 15-39.  

(Let the record show that the fact that I am blogging my real age and not my spirit age (29!) is a show of good faith. I'm going to keep it real here.) 

The first time I got saved...I wasn't sexually active with the man I LIVED (held thought here) with for nearly 3 months. I don't think I had the same kind of relationship then that I have with God now. 

In fact, I know I didn't.

I didn't put in the work then. I went through the motions..go to church, pray at church, leave church at church..but I didn't put in the work. So. My salvation didn't stick.  

Anyway. I fell. Not sure what I was expecting laying up with my man every night...but I did. And God forgave me..but..I wanted my man more than I wanted God..so I left God.  

(Can I just say here that I don't have that man anymore...but I still have God!) 

There were men before (and during) my man..there was a man after. And now I am left with the burden of severing all those unGodly soul ties.  

So. I did it. I had sex before marriage. But. What I haven't done is have sex SINCE GOD. 

Sex before marriage is not a good idea because you connect to another person on a level that God only intended for marriage. And when it doesn't end in marriage. It hurts to end that connection. It hurts like hell.  

There will be wham, bam, thank you ma'am sexual encounters where outside the moment you don't feel anything because you didn't invest anything. But even those put a lil nick in your soul. 

So. After conducting exhaustive research for nearly 25 years...I say....save yourself for marriage. Even if you already have 25 years under your not so chaste chastity belt. 

Keep the cookies in the jar. Make them buy the cow.

God's story. 

Acts 15:20 KJV

But that we write unto them, that they abstain...from fornication... 

1 Corinthians 6:9 KJV

Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators.... 

1 Corinthians 6:18 KJV

Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. 

There's more..but we all already know how God feels about sex before marriage. 

And I don't mean to make anyone feel any type of way. I am not trying to judge anyone.  

I am just presenting my opinion and asking you for yours. And we all know where to find God's facts if we want them. 

I am attaching some stats that I came across this morning. I was surprised at the number of Christian people who thought it was okay. Or more to the point, I was surprised at how many admitted it.  

But then, I'm sure it was done anonymously!

+ 61% say it's okay to have sex before marriage 

+ 23% says it's okay, if they were in love

+ 5% said yes, but only after they were engaged 

+ 11% said no

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