If that shoe fits.....

Hold up! First of all. I was speaking from the loneliness of my own bed. The emptiness of my own arms. From my own heart, for myself. It was an opinion on my very own Facebook page. What's the harm in that?

But since you want to go there...LET'S!

Last night I said (AND MEANT) that "any woman that does not fall asleep each night wrapped around her husband is a fool. Yup. A Fool." Yes. Me. Donna/Netta Gilchrist, currently single and never married, take full credit and responsibility for my words.

You guys are going to have to work with me here because I am trying not to react to the misplaced emotions and the attitudes that I have received since I posted that status. So if some of my frustration slips through, well, please just pray for me.

"Any woman" that has a husband is a wife. Not a girlfriend. Not a wifey. But a wife. And in my opinion any wife that doesn't fall asleep wrapped around her husband or wrapped in his arms is a fool. Point, Blank, Period. I don't care how you end up, how you wake up..but to end your day..there should be some arm locking going on.  And to start your day, there should be some flesh reaching for some flesh.

Having a husband is an honor. A privilege. And anyone who doesn't fully appreciate what they have in their husband is a fool. The bible says in Proverbs 18:22 "the man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the Lord." Found a wife. Found a treasure. Got it! BUT..the bible also says in Proverbs 31:30 "charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised." (You can read for yourself the characteristics of a good wife in Proverbs 31:10-31 on your own time.) Charming...check. Beautiful...check. Fears the Lord............

I wasn't talking to just any woman. I wasn't talking to just any wife. I was talking to godly women..who either are wives or, like me, are aspiring to be wives. If you fear the Lord. you already know that the bible clearly tells you how to love and support your man (Proverbs 31:10-31 and Ephesians 5:21-32). So there should not be a problem with you wrapping or being wrapped. You do not go to bed angry (Ephesians 4:26). No matter what he does or has done, a woman that fears the Lord knows that you forgive him and keep it moving. You put that man first (Colossians 3:18)!

And for those of you who wanted to argue about what he should or should not be doing...you better hit him with some of those scriptures too..because I didn't say any man...was a fool.  I clearly said any woman.

Please don't pick and choose pieces of what I say to try to use against me. I said that when God sends my husband for me that I could guarantee those two things. I said that the first and last sound of my day would be his heartbeat. And the first and last thought of my night will be thank God for it (his heartbeat).

Pay attention to what I was saying. I said that I would thank God every morning for his heartbeat as I either held him close enough to feel it or he held me close enough to hear it. I said that I would would thank God every night for his heartbeat.

I didn't say anything about whether or not he would deserve it. Or if he will have earned it by treating me a certain way. I didn't say anything about all the things he did or didn't do. I said that I would thank God for him...GLAD, MAD, SAD, OR BAD.

And if you can't find it in yourself to do the same..welp..here's a couple of hard questions for you to ask yourself.
1. Why is he still my husband?
2. Why am I still his wife?
But that right there is your business so you need to take that up with your Jesus!

My husband is on special order from God. Special order! Designed for me by my Father. So when God sends him looking for me. I don't care what else anybody says..the one thing that they won't be able to say is that I was a fool for not letting him..and God..know just how thankful I am to have him.

So. If you are not wrapped around your husband every night and reaching for him every morning...you are a fool. And if I struck a nerve..there is no need to get all bent..because the same way that I've learned not to be a fool..you can too. READ YOUR BIBLE!